The ability to love another person is fundamental to any close relationship. We’ve all experienced love at one time or another, and love is an innate part of being human. That doesn’t mean we’ve mastered the ability to receive and give it. How can I know if I am really in love?
One of the most important things I learned about love came from a book I read when I was in my early 20s. “Love is not a feeling… it’s a decision and a commitment.” Really? Yes!! Feelings come and and go based upon needs getting met or unmet. But, since love is a decision, we get to choose who we love. And while we can debate whether love is unconditional or not, truly loving someone does mean commitment.
Early on in many romantic relationships we are certain that we are feeling “true love.” We want to say and hear those three precious words, “I love you.” Yet, is it really love or simply those wonderful feelings of excitement, attraction, and connection? Have you gotten to know this person well enough to consciously choose a lasting commitment? Perhaps a more sensible approach is to take more time to learn more about them and experience some of the inevitable ups and downs of relationship that are going to occur.
What are the love choices you’ve made in your life and how have they affected you? Do you want to make different love choices in the future? Contact me and we’ll talk about it.
Dave Hunt is a certified professional coach, experienced mediator and teacher. With a background in corporate finance and business development, he has 40 years of experience in identifying and achieving goals. Specializing in finances and relationships, Dave helps people figure out what they need and develops a customized plan to achieve it.